Reunion Planning A – Z (or 26 Tips to Planning Your High School Reunion)

A – Attendance varies by reunion, but a good mark to follow is 25% of the class size will attend.  This includes guests.

B – Bar setups become less important the further you get from high school.  Go with the open bar at your 10 and 20-year reunions, then switch to a cash bar for your 30, 40, and 50th.

C – Classmates rarely remember where the reunion was held, but always remember how they felt seeing an old friend.

D – Don’t underestimate the amount of time necessary to plan a reunion on your own.  Block out of your schedule 45-hands-on hours, minimum.

E – Encourage your classmates to attend by making personal calls and sending personal e-mails.  A little effort from the committee can mean great reunion attendance.

F – Facebook is a wonderful reunion planning tool, but it isn’t the only tool you’ll need.  On average, only 35% of classmates join a reunion page.

G – Greet your classmates at the door the night of your reunion celebration.  It eases nerves, sets the tone for the party, and gives you a chance to say hello to everyone.

H – Hiring a professional reunion planner is an easy, stress-free way to plan your reunion.  And you avoid the financial liability.  Find a professional planner by contacting the National Association of Reunion Managers.

I – Invitations to the reunion should always include suggested reunion attire.

J – Just because you are excited about attending your reunion, not all of your classmates feel the same.  High school wasn’t an easy time for everyone, and some classmates prefer not to go back.

K – Keep the class list and current addresses so you’ll have them for your next reunion.  Giving a copy to everyone on the committee ensures you can find it 10 years later.

L – Looking through your yearbook at your first reunion committee meeting is a great way to kick off the reunion planning process.  It brings back memories, and begins the conversation of “who still talks to who”, which will be important when trying to find classmates.

M – Money matters, but not as much as you think.  Don’t be afraid of a $79-$90 ticket price.  Classmates will pay if they perceive the value.

N – Never sign a venue contract with a minimum you are not willing to pay yourself if you have lower than expected attendance. 

O – Only one person should be the committee contact with the venue.  This eliminates misinformation and multiple calls to your venue sales person.

P – Planning for your reunion should begin 8 – 10 months before the reunion celebration date.

Q – Question your classmates on Facebook about songs they would like to hear at the reunion celebration. 

R – Read the fine print on all contracts and agreements.

S – Select an appropriate way to remember deceased classmates.

T – Take time to answer each e-mail or Facebook posting, even the negative comments.  It will show your classmates that you value their opinion, and can help put a stop to any destructive misconceptions surrounding the event.

U – Understand the upfront costs before you take on the task of planning the reunion by yourself or with a committee.

V – Videos or slide shows from your high school years are big hits.  Make a copy for each classmate attending as a give-a-way.

W – Wedding months mean less availability and higher prices.  Book early for popular venues.

X – Multiply the number on your reunion guest list by 20% to come up with an estimate of the number of classmates and guests who will pay at the door that night:

100 pre-registered classmates and guests X 20% = 20 additional registrations at the door.

Y – Yearbooks are hot commodities at a reunion.  To keep your copy safe, display it at the staffed registration table, not as part of your memorabilia collection.

Z – Zip code sorting sends your reunion invitations at the cheaper bulk rate.  But, build in extra time for the post office to deliver.

6 Things to Do the Month Before Your Reunion

1)  Decide what to wear.  Whatever the dress code, it is most important to be comfortable in your own personal style.  If you’re more confident in a pantsuit than a cocktail dress, wear it.  No one will remember what you wore, only how you looked.  Confidence is the best accessory.

2) Think about what stories you might want to share at the reunion.  Stories about your triumphs, adventures, transformations, or struggles are real and engaging.  You’ll be respected more for what stories you shared than what things you boasted about that night.  But, bring pictures of your kids.

3)  Make plans for a pre-reunion lunch with your best friends from high school so you’ll have more time to mingle with other classmates at the reunion.  The night goes by fast and there will be many classmates you’ll want to see.

4)  Take some time to look through your yearbook or scrapbook.  You may not remember names, but you’ll recognize the faces.  You’ll also be surprised at the stories you’ll remember as you flip through the pages.

5)  Don’t buy into reunion stereotypes and realize that regardless of what life was like in high school, it has been years since graduation.  A lot has changed and who you were then isn’t who you are now.  The same is true for everyone else.  Classmates are generally interested in you, and are looking forward to seeing you at your reunion.  If you don’t feel as if you’ve done anything impressive, so what?  Most classmates haven’t either.

6)  Even though you may be Facebook friends with many of your classmates, Facebook doesn’t replace honest, real, face to face conversations, or a handshake, or a hug.  But, it does offer a great starting point when you’re first talking with someone you haven’t seen since graduation.

6 Quick Tips for Great Reunion Attendance

1) Announce the reunion date at least 6-months in advance, and send invitations and registration information at least 4 months before the reunion.  Classmates need time to put the date on their calendar, make arrangements if coming in from out of town, and add the reunion cost to their budget.

2) Invite classmates from different clubs or organizations to join the reunion committee.  Having a diverse committee list makes the reunion feel like an event for everyone.

3) Divide the list of classmates and have committee members make personal phone calls to encourage classmates to attend.  Let your classmates know how excited you are to see them and how the reunion won’t be the same if they aren’t there.  You may also send personalized
e-mails – try to avoid mass e-mail blasts – but stay away from Facebook messages.  While Facebook is an easy way to connect with someone, it is also easy to forget that message sitting in your Facebook inbox. 

4) Even though the price rarely affects reunion attendance, let classmates know what is included with their ticket.  Be sure to mention a few intangibles, such as “seeing a high school friend for the first time in 20-years” or “an evening filled with stories only your high school friends could share”.

5) Spend time searching for lost classmates on Facebook and spokeo.com.  And, make it easy for classmates to find you to learn about the reunion.  Set up a reunion Facebook page, and post reunion information as part of your personal Facebook page’s status.   You’ll also want to include reunion information on your school’s website and in your local paper.  If you have a class reunion website, be sure to send the address in all your e-mail, Facebook and mailed correspondence.

6) Don’t plan a night-before-the-reunion Happy Hour.  It detracts from the big reunion celebration and gives classmates a choice as to which reunion activity to attend.  You’re having a reunion to bring your classmates together in one place at one time.  More than one event quickly defeats this purpose. 

Do you have any tips for having a fantastic turnout at your reunion?  Share them in the comments section below.

Super Cute Reunion Invite

The Clear Creek 1991 20-year reunion committee wanted to design their own reunion invitation and created with this super cute invite. Watch your mailbox Wildcats, you’ll receive this invitation packet soon!

Reunion Planning, by the Class of 2016


Some of the best ideas come from kids, so we asked a few middle schoolers to create a tagline for a reunion planning company. With their first reunion many years away, they sure seem to understand event planning and high school reunions. Here are a few of our favorites:

This kid really plays to the very honest need (read: want) to see how our classmates measure up at our reunion.

Yep, this pretty much sums it up.

Best tagline for a reunion planning company owned by JJ Evans.

How can this not provide for a little self reflection?

Look for this kid to be a party planner in about 20 years.

So true. So, so true.

Hard to disagree with this sentiment.

Reunion Committee DIY Decoration Ideas

How fortunate is it that we get to partner with the best reunion committees, and see the creative touches they bring to their reunion celebration?  Here are a few of our favorites:

Stacy, the Hazelwood West 1990 reunion committee chair, put together these adorable centerpieces for each table at her reunion.   The red and black school colors filled the room, and classmates got to take the centerpieces home at the end of the evening.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 


We’ve never seen a sweets table put together with as much thought and finesse as by reunion chair Julie!  The Granite City 1989 Warriors were treated to cupcakes and candy, all heavily influenced by the color red.


 

 

 

 

 

  
Remember that panoramic photo you took your senior year?  Thankfully Julie, from the Parkway North Class of 2000, saved her photo, enlarged it a bit, and had it mounted on foam core as part of a display.  Classmates couldn’t get enough of the photo and went back many times during their reunion celebration to recall a face or to remember a name.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 


The Willowbrook 1990 reunion committee proves memories don’t have to come in a fancy package to be memories.  Classmates loved looking at these photo displays throughout their reunion evening.

As these smiling Lafayette 1990 Lancers know, the best decoration at a high school reunion is still the yearbook. 

Reunion Wisdom + Teen Movies = Lots of Great Quotes!

 

Breakfast Club, 1985
We’re all pretty bizarre. Some of us are just better at hiding it, that’s all.  – Andrew

Pretty in Pink, 1986
I just want them to know that they didn’t break me. – Andie
Listen, it’s after 7:00. Don’t waste good lip gloss. – Iona

Ferris Bueller’s Day Off,  1986
Life moves pretty fast. If you don’t stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it. – Ferris

 Sixteen Candles,  1984
What’s happenin’ hot stuff? – Long Duk Dong

Napoleon Dynamite, 2004
So, we’re pretty much friends by now, right? – Napoleon Dynamite

Dazed and Confused, 1993
All I’m saying is that if I ever start referring to these as the best years of my life – remind me to kill myself. – Pink

Can’t Hardly Wait, 1998
Fate! There is such a thing as fate, but it only takes you so far. Then it’s up to you to make it happen. – Angel Stripper

Can’t Buy Me Love, 1987
I mean, he went from totally geek, to totally chic! – Patty
Nerds, jocks. My side, your side. It’s all bullshit. It’s hard enough just trying to be yourself. – Ronald Miller

The Karate Kid, 1984
Go, find balance. – Mr. Miyagi

Back to the Future, 1985
It’s gonna be really hard waiting thirty years to talk to you about everything that’s happened in the last few days. I’m really gonna miss you. – Doc

Grease, 1978
It doesn’t matter if you win or lose, it’s what you do with your dancin’ shoes. – Vince

Dead Poets Society, 1989
There’s a time for daring and there’s a time for caution, and a wise man understands which is called for. – John Keating

Mean Girls, 2004
All you can do in life is try to solve the problem in front of you. – Cady

Say Anything, 1989
I don’t want to sell anything, buy anything, or process anything as a career. I don’t want to sell anything bought or processed, or buy anything sold or processed, or process anything sold, bought, or processed, or repair anything sold, bought, or processed. You know, as a career, I don’t want to do that.Lloyd Dobler
How many of them really know what they want, though? I mean, a lot of them think they have to know, right? But inside they don’t really know, so I don’t know, but I know that I don’t know.  Lloyd Dobler
That’ll never be me, that’ll never be me. That’ll never be, never be me. NO… NO, NEVER, NEVER, EVER. And don’t you EVER THINK IT.  - Corey Flood

Clueless, 1995
Wow, you guys talk like grown-ups!Tai

Heathers, 1988
The extreme always seems to make an impression. – J.D.
I say we just grow up, be adults and die. – Veronica Sawyer

Dirty Dancing, 1987
I’ll never be sorry.Johnny…Neither will I. – Baby

Better Off Dead, 1985
Go that way, really fast. If something gets in your way, turn.Charles De Mar
I think all you need is a small taste of success, and you will find it suits you.Monique Junot

Did we miss any?

31 Reasons Why You Should Go to Your High School Reunion

Need a good reason to go to your high school reunion?  How about 31?

  1. You’ve got nothing to prove.
  2. You want to swoon over your ex-boyfriend.
  3. You want your ex-boyfriend to swoon over you – might want to start looking for that perfect cocktail dress now.
  4. No one can relive that big game like the friends who where there with you when it happened.
  5. Few events offer the opportunity to go back in time and laugh like a teenager.
  6. This party doesn’t involve puffy prom dresses, dyed to match shoes, or big hair – though you might see a few photos of just that.
  7. You know high school didn’t define you.
  8. You might find out Mr. Most-Likely-To-Succeed is now a stay-at-home dad, and Miss Biggest Flirt is now a tenured professor at an Ivy League.
  9. You’ve traded in your sporty Chucks for sexy Jimmy Choos a long time ago.
  10. Even though your life didn’t follow the road map you had planned, you know deep down your path has been uniquely yours.
  11. Even with the best of intentions, you really don’t get together with those high school Facebook friends.
  12. You look better than you’ve ever looked before.
  13. You feel better than you’ve ever felt before.
  14. You are so not who you were back then.
  15. You want to remember who you were back then.
  16. You can’t hear the infectious laugh of the classmate who sat behind you in geometry, see an ex-boyfriend’s smiling blue eyes, or hug your former locker partner on Facebook.
  17. To introduce your husband to the girlfriends who got you through your first heartbreak.
  18. It is sure to be chock full of status worthy Facebook postings or fodder for your blog.
  19. Even if you’re recently divorced, have a bit less hair, lost your job or wear a few extra pounds, you are still who you are, only better.
  20. It is a great way to show your partner where you came from.
  21. And an even better way to see how far you’ve come.
  22. There are very few opportunities in life to reinvent yourself.
  23. You can watch a movie about a reunion – Grosse Pointe Blank, Romy and Michele’s High School Reunion – or you can live it.
  24. Group memories are best shared as a group.
  25. At a reunion, everyone shows up older, and then grows young again.
  26. Your classmates know just what it is like and just how it feels to be 28, or 38, or 48, or 58 or 68.
  27. To talk about your high school glory days, not to relive them, but to tell your classmates “I’m glad we went through it together” makes for a great evening.
  28. The “I didn’t like anyone then”, “I still talk to everyone I want to talk to”, and “everything there is to know about anyone is on Facebook” excuses are predictable and ordinary.  You are neither.
  29. Rarely in life do you get to look back through a new lens.
  30. Being someone’s “friend” on Facebook does not mean you know anything about them other than what they did last Friday night.
  31. Because you can.

Why are you going to your high school reunion?  Leave a comment to let us know!

Should I Hire a Reunion Planning Company?

Wondering if you should hire a company to plan your high school reunion?  This flowchart may help.

5 Ways to Honor Deceased Classmates

The harshest reality of a high school reunion is learning of the death of a fellow classmate. You’re young, or maybe you feel young, so it is hard to believe a classmate just as young is no longer with you. At your reunion, you want to remember these classmates, but want to do so in a respectful and appropriate way. Here are a few ideas:

1)  Create a Memorial Table Photo Display   On a linen covered table, set a framed photo of each classmate.  In front of each picture, place a lit white votive or candle.  You may also frame a list of names along with a single white candle.  Adding an appropriate poem or quote is also a nice touch.

2)  Include a Directory Page  
Include a page for each deceased classmate in your directory or memory book, add their high school photo, and ask a fellow classmate to write a memory or thought.  Or, have a single page listing the names of each classmate in the front of the book.

3) Remember Parents or Family Members  
Let parents or families know you haven’t forgotten your classmates.  The Kirkwood Class of 1991 set out cards for reunion attendees to write a note to the parents of their deceased classmates.  Each card was filled with messages about how the classmate was missed.  You may also want to send flowers to the parents or families, letting them know their loss is felt by everyone in the class.  

You may be concerned this would be upsetting to family members.  Parents and families deal with their loss every day.  This isn’t a reminder.  It is a way to let them know you also share in their grief.  But, use your best judgment as to what you and the committee feel is most appropriate.

4) Make a Donation to Your School  
Make a donation to your school or alumni association in memory of your classmates.  Include the donation as part of the ticket price, or allow classmate to donate to the fund when they register for the reunion.  The donation may be used as a scholarship or to buy something the school needs, such as equipment for the football team or books for the library.  Click here for a story about the Lafayette Class of 2002 and the scholarships they created in memory of their classmates.

5) Create a Permanent Memorial   
Collect donations to purchase a tree or bench.  Have the dedication during the reunion weekend, and include pictures in your directory or on your memorial table.  The tree or bench may be placed on the school grounds with a plaque or sign, such as “In Fond Memory of Our Classmates, the Benton Class of 1991″.

What Not to Do

  • It is not necessary to include the when, why or how of a deceased classmate.  This gossip isn’t anyone’s business, and you don’t want to offer information which may not be 100% correct.
  • Don’t read names or have a moment of silence during the reunion program.  Classmates are usually too busy talking and visiting and drinking to listen to what you have to say, making it hard to maintain a tone of respect.  If you are able to hold the attention of your classmates during this time, transitioning back into the spirit of the reunion celebration can be difficult. 
  • Don’t leave empty chairs at a table in memory of each deceased classmate unable to attend.  

Most of all, know it is not wrong to celebrate your reunion while at the same time remembering those classmates who are no longer with you. 

Here are a few quotes you may want to include as part of your memorial:

No love, no friendship, can cross the path of our destiny without leaving some mark on it forever. 
Francois Mocuriac

So many things have happened
Since they were called away.
So many things to share with them
Had they been left to stay.
And now on this reunion day,
Memories do come our way.
Though absent, they are ever near,
Still missed, remembered, always dear.
Author Unknown

Hold a true friend with both your hands.
Nigerian Proverb

We all take different paths in life, but no matter where we go, we take a little of each other everywhere.
Tim McGraw